I have always freely admitted that I have some prejudice against blacks. I make no apologies for that fact simply because it was black people themselves who made me that way, not the teachings of, or peer pressure from, other people. Prejudice is about feelings. Racism and bigotry is about action, or lack of it. I’m not a racist or a bigot, but I AM a realist. ANYONE who says they aren’t prejudiced against SOMEONE is lying to themselves, PERIOD. I don’t say that to justify my own prejudice, but because over half-a-century of people-watching has convinced me of the fact.
That said, I used to have a supervisor who was young enough to be my daughter, but probably tried harder to be fair and helpful than anyone I’ve ever worked under. She was white, but she had three children by her black ex-husband and was then allowing her black boy-friend to live with her and off of her. Eventually, she grew tired of that situation, and his inclination toward being abusive, and threw him out. Even then, I noticed that she was attracted only to black guys, and she appeared to be more sympathetic to black kids at work than she was toward white ones. Still, she was unfair with no-one, and I wrote off her greater concern for black kids to the fact that she had three of her own.
Not long ago, I included her on my friends list on Facebook. Since then, I’ve noticed something about her posts. Except for personal stuff between her white friends and coworkers, all her posts are about blacks. Almost daily, she posts music, quotes, events and history concerning blacks. I didn’t think anything about it until after a few weeks, I realized that she had never posted one single solitary thing from or about a white person. Now, I’ve seen some folks that are infatuated with certain races or groups of people; folks that are seriously into oriental or Native American culture come first to mind. Still most don’t completely turn their back on their own culture and upbringing.
The other day, I checked out one of the sites where she gets some of the things that she reposts. It was a site for interracial couples. I could see how that might serve a purpose, but I had to wonder about the respectability of the site, when I saw a drawing of two large black feet turned downward between two smaller, up-turned ones. Not only did that strike me as trashy, but I saw no drawings of other colors or combinations. Looking through the site, it was all black guys and white gals, no white guys with black gals and no other races. I remember thinking at the time that the site seemed rather discriminatory. Out of fairness, I checked the site again a few days later and all my areas of concern were entirely gone, including the feet. I assume that it must change from day to day. Interestingly enough, the young woman finally quoted a white person that day.
The situation got me to thinking, though. Despite still thinking highly of my former boss for her good heart, I have to admit that I think slightly less of her than I did. Perhaps I’m wrong to feel this way, but it seems to me that being AGAINST a person because of their color is no more wrong than being FOR a person due to their race. So is “reverse discrimination” any more honorable than plain old discrimination? In fact; is there any difference what-so-ever? Neither is color-blindness. What do YOU think? © 2013